Raising Magnolias

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“We are not altogether on anybody’s side”

OK, so apparently the Dad on the Duck show is in trouble. Or at least he was the week of Christmas. I was driving to Arkansas or packing from Arkansas or wrapping for Arkansas and so I’ll admit I missed the hoopla.

I did, however, see on Facebook a post calling duck-dad a bigot.

Is that different from being called a racist??

The night before, I was desperate for a few more minutes of Christmas-packing-preparation so when Coulter asked if he could watch the Duck show, I said sure.

The next day, driving South, he bragged on me for letting him watch .

I stumbled and stammered.

“Yeah, about that. We may need to quit watching.  I think maybe some guy named Phil—is there a Phil from that show?”

Yes. Coulter says.

“OK, well I think maybe he said something unkind about black people.”

This would be a good time to tell you that my $125 cable bill is basically a donation—my strange way of supporting the local economy except that my bill is mailed to somewhere out of state so I guess it’s not local after all.

And I’m trying to figure out Netflix.

Except I need the internet.

And I’m worried about the spring when Dancing with the Stars comes back on.

Oh, such big issues I’m dealing with tonight. 🙂

Ever since separating from my husband,  I’ve been unable to sit and watch television. It’s not that I’m this super-righteous, way too busy reading my Bible to be bothered with tv, it’s just that I have trouble sitting still.

Or maybe it’s that when I do sit still, I fall asleep.

Anyway, these ramblings are just to let you know that I don’t watch Duck Dynasty.

I grew up in the south and have a rather famous bearded duck-hunter right in my very own family. Plus, I’ve lived my own Lifetime Movie of the Week over the past couple of the years so unless it’s a movie with Matthew McConaughey in it, I’m not super interested.

Uncle Gregory's the only bearded dude this family needs.

Uncle Gregory’s the only bearded dude this family needs.


Where was I?

Traveling South.

Two children.

Two dogs.

Freezing rain and sleet and dense fog and torrential downpours but—-

And praise the Living Lord—-

Nobody got sick.

We get to Arkansas. And I find out that bigots and racists are not the same thing.

Or maybe there are, but of a different sort.

Coulter hasn’t mentioned it again but I know there’s a conversation coming.

And I still haven’t read what Phil said. But I get the general idea.

I haven’t read because it’s Christmas (yes, still) and all that noise distracts from the manger.

From Jesus.

From a New Year with new hopes and new dreams and sometimes that’s all it is.


But I did read Ann Voskamp’s response:

“Silencing people may not be the most effective way of educating them. When you disagree with someone don’t dismiss them–dialogue with them.”

And I like that.

When did we start dismissing people just because we disagree with them?

Words are powerful. God spoke our world into existence. Adam was given the authority to name the birds of the air and the fish of the sea and we can speak the name of Jesus and we name graces and we name children and I would argue that in all the noise and all the opinions, we haven’t forgotten Jesus.

We’ve forgotten His words.

His teachings.

And how.

He taught.

What’s the proverb about sweeter with honey?

Uhm. Yeah. That. That’s what we’ve forgotten.

Timothy Keller says, “If the preaching of our ministers and the practice of our parishioners do not have the same effect on people that Jesus had, then we must not be declaring the same message that Jesus did.


I don’t know why I’m writing about this or why the Lord has placed it on my heart. I’m for sure not trying to make a political statement…I have no statements. Only questions.

I suppose, though, it’s because this all hits pretty close to home and as a Mom I want to have an answer to the question when Coulter asks to watch Duck Dynasty again.

And he will.

And I don’t know the right answer.

Timothy Keller writes (in The Prodigal God—and I think Timothy Keller is my new Ann Voskamp only he’s–ya know–a man.) Anyway, he writes in reference to the Parable of the two sons, “so, whose side is Jesus on? In the Lord of the Rings when the hobbits ask the ancient Treebeard whose side his on, he answers: “I am not altogether on anybody’s side, because nobody is altogether on my side…(But) there are some things, of course, whose side I’m altogether not on.”

I think my message to Coulter will be (as I wrote about several weeks ago) to just go back to The Word.

His Word.

And I will tell him “we are not altogether on anybody’s side” because it’s not about choosing sides.

It’s about loving God.

And loving others.

And if that doesn’t work, I’ll cancel cable. 🙂


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